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How you can be Helped

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Reduce Anxiety, overcome Phobias, deal with Panic Attacks
Anxiety takes many forms - generalised anxiety, panic attacks, fears, and phobias, lack of confidence or overwhelming stress and pressure.

Break the Cycle of Depression
Even chronic depression can often be lifted quickly and the joy returned to life.

Remove debilitating emotional scars of abuse
However painful, these can be turned into ordinary memories by using the Rewind technique - safely and without reliving them in a highly emotional state.

Resolve trauma
Human Givens can treat post traumatic stress disorder effectively and quickly.

Anger Management
Anger disorders damage health, increase the likelihood of an early death and cause enormous misery among relatives, colleagues and innocent bystanders.

Find Inexplicable Compulsions just disappear
Compulsive behaviours, often but not always sexual can blight relationships, families and lives

Stop Addictive Behaviours
All forms of addictions can be helped – alcohol, nicotine, drugs, gambling, sex, TV and computer games, eating disorders – providing the person wants to make the effort to stop.

Enhance Wellbeing, Confidence and much more
The wide range of contributors to lives that are unhappy and unfulfilled can be tackled in a consistent and holistic way.

Harmonise Relationships
Relationship difficulties are often self-perpetuating because our beliefs and reactions to one another trigger patterns of behaviour which stop us solving them. When couples want to stay together but are having problems, Human Givens can help.

Relieve Medical Conditions
Many conditions such as psoriasis, eczema, asthma, irritable bowel syndrome, chronic pain and migraine, have an emotional component. Stressful events often trigger an outbreak because emotions affect health – and vice versa.

Overcome Anxiety, Phobic Fears, Panic Attacks or Obsessive Thoughts

Life events and experiences, if they are powerful and unwelcome, will lodge in our emotional brain. Strong and uncontrollable emotions can then overwhelm us from time to time (or a lot of the time) – even though we know that they are not rational. We can feel helpless, which in turn exacerbates the anxiety or dominating feelings.

Human Givens therapists are trained to deal effectively and quickly with all forms of debilitating thoughts and feelings:

The power of the debilitating emotional memory will be removed – by use of the Rewind. This will normally be successful in just one session. All Human Givens therapists can attest to its wide applicability. The results are invariably liberating and life changing.
You will learn how to relax – including simple methods tailored to your unique circumstances and experiences.
With energy and confidence renewed, you can (assisted by visualisations) redirect your efforts towards goals that will meet your emotional needs.

Lift Depression – more quickly than you can possibly imagine

Lacking energy, motivation and joy is the natural response to difficult life events, if their effects are made worse by unhelpful and ingrained habits of thinking. For a depressed person, excessive emotional arousal (caused by rumination and introspection) causes Dreaming and Sleeping Mechanisms to overload. That is why depressed people often feel at the worst in the morning after they awaken.

Read How to Lift Depression……Fast by Joe Griffin and Ivan Tyrell which goes into much more detail - available from Human Givens publishing. Also, Lifting the Lid on Depression by Chris Scott (an HG Practitioner).

Human Givens therapists are trained to relieve symptoms of depression:

We will find ways to reduce emotional arousal and so improve your sleeping and dreaming. You will notice the beneficial effects of this surprisingly quickly.
By agreeing and rehearsing small practical steps to get your essential emotional needs met, you will find that Confidence in your Resources and Capacity for happiness will return.
By a careful examination of how you respond to situations and how you view your resources, you will also gain greater flexibility to handle whatever life events bring for you in the future.

Anger Management

Anger is a natural emotion, evolved over countless generations in order to keep us safe. There is less need of it in modern times and often now it develops into an strong emotional response, triggered uncontrollably. Typically anger is the response to feeling out of control. Sometimes in addition there is a hidden "gain" from anger outbursts as they can result in the relief of being heard or even remind of a powerful memory of being in control

Human Givens therapists are trained to deal effectively and quickly with all forms of anger:

The source of the debilitating emotional memory will be identified (if this is the main reason) – typically from a past patterned response.
If the source is needs not being met today, then this will be addressed.
Relaxation methods will be taught and explained and tools to manage and identify the anger pattern.

Emotional Trauma - Trauma (PTSD), Abuse, Bullying Loss and most emotionally strong past experiences can be quickly cleared

Human Beings are designed by nature and evolution to react immediately to any threat to their existence – real or perceived to be real. This is the flight/ fight response. And past emotional trauma which has been threatening can remain in the primitive emotional brain – and be activated to create that same powerful and uncontrolled response - again and again and again. This can be a terrible burden – for activation is outside one’s conscious control - and the impact often spreads to other areas of a person’s life.

Human Givens therapists are trained to remove the emotional power of all types of strong past trauma – from abuse, bullying, accidents, grief and loss, panic attacks and much more:

Rewind is the main tool used to overcome bad past experiences – not to understand them for their own sake but to remove their capacity to stop essential needs being met today. And the Rewind is non-voyeuristic – you will not need to disclose the emotional trauma that you would rather keep private.
And once the trauma has ceased to have a debilitating impact, then Human Givens can get to work to rebuild healthy lives where needs are being met and resources are again working effectively.

Lose Weight, Stop Smoking, Give up Drugs, Deal with Drinking

We all have the potential to act habitually in ways that we know will damage us over the longer-term. And we can always find reasons not to change and so respond to the old emotional triggers that keep us stuck.

Human Givens therapists are trained to help overcome all types of addictive behaviours:

Armed with new Scientific Understanding as to why you act in ways that you know are not in your long-term interest, you will acquire a vital tool to monitor yourself and so change.
We will build motivation – both in terms of the benefits of change and in terms of the costs of no change.
With practical advice and detailed visualisations, you will find that new habitual responses replace the old in a matter of weeks.
Not only will you lose weight or stop smoking (or resolve any other damaging behaviours) but Your life will be Rebalanced. You will find that you regain control – and are empowered in all kinds of ways to find new pleasures.

Remove damaging and inexplicable Compulsions

Compulsions are often sexual but can also revolve around anger outbursts and addictive behaviors. They are completely inexplicable, cannot be controlled and can do immense damage. What is going on typically is that the behaviour represents a powerful positive memory (normally from childhood) that is hiding behind a negative experience that happened at the same time.

For example, the pleasure of that one first experience of wearing Mum's clothes illicitly in her bedroom as a young boy is hidden behind an experience of humiliation from being found out. And so unnaccountably that grown man wears female clothes still, and can't stop.

Human Givens therapists are trained to deal effectively and quickly with these hidden or Molar memories:

The experience of the hidden pleasurable memory will be identified by a trance method called the affect bridge.
Once identified, this hidden pleasure can be exposed, explained and released as belonging to a particular (childhood) experience and no longer needed as an adult.

Building Resilience, Emotional Intelligence and Control

To simplify greatly, there are two main sources of the emotional vulnerability that manifests in chronic, persistent anxiety, a lack of confidence and feelings of unhappiness, vulnerability, frustration and a lack of purpose. These are first, the leading of a life where essential human needs are not well met and where there is a failure of understanding and capacity to get these needs met. And second there is weakness and vulnerability in the appropriate use of emotional resources.

Human Givens therapists are trained to identify unmet needs and to heal emotional resources which are not helping:

A needs audit will be undertaken, whether implicitly or explicitly and from that sensible and achievable goals will be set. This activates a powerful human capacity to problem solve and will begin to build confidence and hope and reduce stress.
Emotional resources that are not working well will be identified and their likely origin in past experiences and coping strategies will be uncovered. Once uncovered these can be healed or ameliorated by a wide range of methods.
Relaxation methods will be taught as well as new and empowering understandings from the humans givens as to what makes us all tick.

Harmonise Relationships

Good relationships are critical for emotional health, particularly close family and partner relationships. If they are not working, then these can often be resolved by understandings and technique or instead they may require deeper assistance to either resolve patterns and provide new perspectives or to provide the backdrop to separation.

Human Givens therapists are able to assist practically and psychologically to improve relationships that are not working:

Tools and understandings explored could include reflective listening, the appreciation of biological differences between men and women, and the realisation that small changes initiated by one partner can have big second and third order effects.
Rehearsal work and guided imagery based around human needs and resources will play an essential part.

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